That Girl

Time Out - that girl

I must confess- I’ve always wanted to be that girl.

        You know, the girl that throws drinks and shows up invited. The girl that bashes windows, slashes tires, and spray paints obscenities on her ex’s car. Her “TO DO “ list is solely comprised of tasks that will make his life a living hell. She goes to bed plotting his demise and wakes up with a master plan. She is the kind of girl that dials her guy’s number relentlessly and then after the 20th calls leaves messages like “Since you are not answering your phone YOU MUST BE DEAD”. She drives by his house to see if his car is there with her hands firmly clinched to the steering wheel because if she even so much as sees a glimpse of another women in his window she is ready to start a fight and pull hair. That girl is a fucking trip. She is soo high school, soo me 10 years ago, and might even be me tomorrow as that girl lies dormant in all of us. We either live her treacherous life daily or have successfully figured out that we must keep her tucked away. We learned the hard way that her stupidity is our hidden savior. Unlike her, we have somehow mastered the art of not a caring and have realized that worrying about stupid shit or a stupid boy is detrimental to our face as the wrinkles that come from too much worrying isn’t worth it. Her best success lies in the fact that she has unwittingly laid the footsteps that you will never follow.

        As she stews in the depths of anger, your strength allows you to rise to the top. She can’t grasp the concept of better seen then heard. She is too ugly on the inside to realize how pretty she is on the outside. She is mad at the world. She is silently hurting and wears that broken heart on her sleeve. Alas, her sincerity and willingness to dream should not be discounted. She isn’t afraid to love. She keeps her head in the clouds and is always looking for that silver lining. That Girl is not stupid. Instead she is just dumb — dumbfounded when it comes to the subject of love and what it truly is suppose to feel like. Too dumb to realize that sometimes, boys will be boys and not all boys are worth it.

        That girl looks just like me. She looks just like you. She is a woman – chalk full of all the emotions that make us tick – passion, love, anger, desire, and excitement.

Thank you to every girl that reads my blog.
Thank you to every girl that tells her friends about me.
Thank you to every girl that takes my card.
Thank you to every girl that SUPPORTS ME.


  1. I refer to “that girl’ when I explain what I wanted to do to a guy who has crossed me, but, I never had the nerve to actually do! I have seen that girl and have sometimes been jealous of her courage to throw drinks, curse, scream and even throw punches, until that girl gets her ass whooped! This is not always the case , however, sometimes afterwards that girl gets what she wants. That girl lies inside my conscious but never surfaces. I’m too afraid that I would be the next story on “Snapped”

  2. I love, love, loved this piece. Best one you have written.

    We all feel like doing this. Men do too. But remember, we are the nurturing ones.

    If a guy does you dirty, if he is just here for a fuck, if he tries to piss on you, meet fire with intelligence. Walk away. If he is self-centered, walk away. If he demands and can’t put up with independence, walk away. If he doesn’t want to support your dreams, if he is a player, if he is one of the many, walk away. Revenge? It all catches up with them in the future. They get what they ask for.


    …If you do meet a better half who is good and true, give him your heart. If you suspect something, ask. If he answers you and you feel it is honest, be with him. Love him as he does you.

    If not, don’t be that girl. Walk away.

    That’s why they have gyms, right? Tomorrow is a;ways a better day.

  3. I am that girl! I have cursed and screamed but I never hit because I dont want to get the fire slapped from my mouth ever! I believe that words are just as painful as actions so my mouth is my payback weapon of choice. I must admit that in my older years, I have calmed down but it doesn’t take much for me to find ‘that girl’ and let someone have it. Pray for me yall.

  4. This is great! I love my girlfriends and I’m glad there are lots of other strong women out there so we can join together and overcome this world’s bs :)

  5. Cheers to That Girl!

  6. I’m soo this girl at times and she does live in all of us we just have to choose when to let her out

  7. I’m this girl and I’m never changing.

  8. I AM THAT GIRL………….LUV IT….. AND YOU ARE WELCOME… the inner.. cut throat diva

  9. I just want to say I am all new to blogs and truly liked your website. Very likely I’m want to bookmark your blog . You really come with really good article content. Cheers for revealing your web-site.

  10. OMG. this was soo me in my twenties

  11. Really great blog.

  12. Fantastic site.

  13. You could definitely see your enthusiasm within the paintings you write. The arena hopes for even more passionate writers like you who are not afraid to say how they believe. All the time go after your heart.

  14. I am regular visitor, how are you everybody? This post posted at this site is truly good.

  15. I’ve been this girl before.

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