Time Out - womanhood

I’m selfish about my womanhood and don’t expect a man to get it; in fact, I don’t really care. As I’m sitting at the bar tonight, my date is explaining how busy he is while padding the conversation with 12-letter adjectives and other big words that he thinks will help me deal with the fact we won’t be spending as much time together as we usually do. Unbeknownst to him, I’m secretly laughing to myself. You see, the only reason we are even out tonight is because my schedule permitted it. He has no idea that I actually contemplated whether I should do a full face of makeup or just concealer and blush. Or that I toiled over whether I should wear heels or flats, nude lips or shimmery gloss. His schedule was the least of my concern.

        Men concentrate on their agendas all day, everyday without wavering. A woman, on the other hand, quite often puts her needs on the on the back burner to support a man’s. A woman must learn to be committed to her needs—no exceptions. She must move on her own terms. She must stay smart and remain committed to her own success.

        A woman is the most precious being on the planet. She is the reason why the earth spins. We hold the key to life. Every man should realize that he is nothing without us. Period. We give men their strength. Being in our presence alone can help them to appear taller. We are the reason they go home and jerk off. Our words, our kisses, our touch—they fuel his being. A man is a lucky bastard because of a woman. We validate their existence and they know it.

        Now let’s be clear: I’m not throwing all men under the bus. A good man is what makes my heart beat. His love, encouragement, time and loyalty—it’s priceless. But finding and owning your womanhood is equally as important. Deep in her own mind, she must be clear with her thoughts and desires. Yes, she yearns for a good partner in life but is not afraid to go without if his needs look like they might alter hers.

        It is our world – without or without the following:

        Husband, partner, lover, kids, career, house, car, clothes, money or jewelry.

        We don’t need any of it to validate us. We validate ourselves—always.


  1. Wow this is an amazing piece. Just amazing.

  2. We really do hold it together.

  3. I agree that our validation does lie within. We do not need any man to validate our existence.

  4. This piece brought tears to my eyes.

  5. I know it took me several years to reach the place that you speak of in this post and all I can say is WOW. I’m with you girl!

  6. I put on that I care so deeply about his feelings and his needs and hang on to his every word, but I could fucking care less! I do it because I love him and most men need this kind of attention. Ladies take a few community acting classes if you need help. He will appreciate it and be none the wiser.

    • Trueheart did you really say take some community acting classes? That is hillarious!

  7. Owning your womanhood is an amazing feeling.

  8. I agree Allison.I know my man wouldn’t make without me. I give him everything to live for. He is very supportive of my needs too, but I am the reason he gets up and goes to work and then turns around and comes home at night. It does feel good to secretly be in control.

    • Of course, Neil, we all know where the ceetnr of your manhood lies well, of course, that would be anytime it is not erect.And, just for the record, as Wendy already stated it about herself, my womanhood has two ceetnrs as well.

  9. This blog just get better and better.

  10. Great writing

  11. Cheers to Womanhood!

  12. Terrific post.

  13. Bravo on this post. we are the most precious being on the planet.

  14. Being in control of yourself is Number One, I made a “SHORT MAN”look tall physically and emotionally, because without my presence he would of FADED in the CROWD “Timeout” Now it’s all about me! As Allison said owning your womanhood is AMAZING!!

    • I love you for making a short man tall – sometimes you have to look at the leftovers to find the man of your dreams.

      • - ok, last comment I proimse! i feel like I’m taking over your blog loli have a 9 yr old and i can so feel that knocking on the door already to womanhood.it’s scary and captivating all at the same time. it’s a big door though and one i hope she will open slowly.beautifully done.love the dewiness and strength all wrapped into one shot

  15. Women… We do run the world, but often are made to forget that. So sad the male ego at times, wanting to feel in control of everything including us. A good woman isn’t BEHIND every good & or successful man. A good woman stands BESIDES him or often is in front LEADING his way.

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